How To Apply What You’ve Learned In Therapy To Your actual life…

You’ve been in and out of therapy over the last handful of years. During those seasons, you found some value from working with your therapist and made some considerable progress toward your goals.

Maybe you…

Gained more direction for your life while also reducing anxiety around your divorce and shifting into being a single parent.

Learned that you can be both aware of others feelings while also recognizing our own feelings, needs and desire. Previously, you were so focused on ensuring everyone around you was “ok” or “good” that you got missed (and called it selfless).

Understood that you need to communicate with your ex in a way that keeps you balanced and regulated instead of feeling off balanced and out of control.

What makes healing and growing so hard?

One of the most difficult things about healing is taking what you learned in the therapy

room and applying it to your relationships, situations and, really, your life.

As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, I don’t think you need to be in therapy for forever. I do think that there are seasons where we all need extra support, perspective and a guide to help us navigate through what feels unfamiliar, scary and overwhelming.

How Do You Apply The Things You Learned In Therapy Into Your Life?

Going to therapy is kind of like gardening. When you first begin, there’s a desire to want something different. You’re tired of looking at what could be a thriving garden but instead it’s currently a hot mess all overgrown with weeds and junk. You’ve been too busy to notice it before and now that it’s become an eyesore, you recognize the need and desire, within you, for something different.

Next we have to clear away all of the overgrowth, de-weed and lay down new soil. Then you’re going to need some specific tools to ensure that the seeds and flowers you’re planting will flourish in their new habit. You lay down new soil, new mulch and you feel so proud of the work you’ve done in taking your hot mess of a garden bed into a flourishing, beautiful, and welcoming garden.

Just like gardening, we have to tend to our minds, hearts and body through strategies of self care, identifying destructive behavior patterns and engaging in healthy rituals that lead to emotionally healthy and safe relationships to ourselves and others.

You’ve done the big overhaul but now you recognize the need for daily, weekly, monthly maintenance but you’re not quite sure where to start or what to do. How do you prune these types of roses? What kind of fertilizer do you use? Are you over-watering or under-watering?

As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, I absolutely love helping men and women take the theoretical of what they know about themselves and helping them to apply and implement effective strategies to their relationships and their lives. It’s kind of like taking what you read in a book and crafting a specific strategy to help you apple and achieve the desire outcome - feeling more balanced, being able to identify red flags when dating, how to effectively communicate with your partner, learn how to implement boundaries in your relationships, how to be emotionally available to those you love most.

If this resonates and you’re looking for something that will help take you to the next level in terms of implementing the strategies and things you already have a general sense of into every day situations, relationships and your specific content - I’d love for you to join me in a 4 month group coaching experience.