When Should I Go To Therapy?
When Should I Go To Therapy? What are the signs that I may need counseling?
There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the decision to seek therapy is a very personal one. However, some people choose to go to therapy when they are experiencing emotional or mental health struggles, such as feeling sad, anxious, or overwhelmed. Others may turn to therapy to work on personal growth and development, to improve their relationships, or to resolve specific issues or problems in their lives.
If you're experiencing symptoms of depression or symptoms of anxiety, such as feelings of hopelessness, difficulty sleeping, or changes in appetite, it may be helpful to go to therapy. Therapy can also be helpful for those struggling with stress, relationship issues, or major life changes, such as the loss of a loved one or a career transition.
It can be good idea to seek therapy, if you notice it's affecting negatively on your daily life, your relationships, your ability to enjoy things, your health, your ability to focus on work, or other important areas of your life.
Ultimately, the decision to go to therapy is a personal one that should be based on your own needs and goals. If you're unsure whether therapy is right for you, it can be helpful to speak with a mental health professional or a trusted medical provider who can provide guidance and support. Check out an article we wrote on everything you need to now about going to therapy.
Questions To Ask If You Are Thinking About Going To Therapy
How Often Should I Go To Therapy?
The frequency of therapy sessions can vary depending on the individual's needs and goals. In general, the frequency of therapy sessions can range from once a week to every other week. Once you have been in therapy for a bit, it can be helpful to then look at reducing the frequency you are going down to once a month.
Initially, it is typical to have weekly or biweekly therapy sessions, as this allows for a consistent space to process and make progress on the identified problems and goals. As the therapy progresses, the frequency of the session can be adjusted to once a month or every other month as appropriate.
It's also important to note that the frequency of therapy sessions can change over time as your needs and goals change. For example, you may find that you need more frequent sessions at the beginning of therapy, but as you begin to make progress and feel better, you may be able to reduce the frequency of your sessions. Your therapist can help you determine the appropriate frequency of sessions for your needs.
Additionally, some therapist also offer "maintenance" sessions, where the client come back from time to time, just to check in and make sure everything is going well and continue to work on any possible relapses, this is also a good way to make sure that the progress made in therapy is being sustained.
Ultimately, the frequency of therapy sessions is a decision that should be made in collaboration with your therapist, based on your specific needs and goals, and can be adjusted as necessary.
How Do I Know What Kind of Therapy I Need?
There are many different types of therapy, and it can be difficult to know which one is right for you. The best way to determine which type of therapy you need is to speak with a mental health professional. They can provide an assessment of your needs and recommend an appropriate form of therapy.
Here are a few things to consider when selecting a type of therapy:
Problem area
Different forms of therapy are better suited to treating different problems. For example, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is often used to treat anxiety and depression, while dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is used to treat borderline personality disorder.
Personal preferences
Some people may prefer a more directive form of therapy, such as CBT, while others may prefer a more open-ended form of therapy, such as humanistic therapy. It's important to consider what type of therapy aligns with your personal beliefs and goals.
Specialization
Some therapist have specific areas of specialization, look for therapist that specializes in the specific problem you want to work on, for example for trauma it could be EMDR or for eating disorders it could be Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). You also want to consider if the counselor you are looking at specializes in something you are needing help with.
Other factors
Some forms of therapy, such as eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) or hypnotherapy, may be better suited to certain populations, such as veterans or individuals with phobias.
Ultimately, it's important to keep an open mind and be willing to try different forms of therapy if the first one doesn't seem to be working for you. Your therapist can help you explore different options and decide what form of therapy is best for you.
It's also important to remember that therapy is a process and it may take some time to find the right fit, don't hesitate to speak up if something is not working and bring it up with your therapist so they can adjust the therapy accordingly.
What Do You Talk About in Therapy?
In therapy, you can talk about whatever is on your mind. The goal of therapy is to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and to work through any challenges or issues you may be facing.
Some common topics that people discuss in therapy include:
Emotions
Many people find it helpful to talk about their feelings in therapy. This might include discussing feelings of sadness, anxiety, anger, or guilt.
Relationships
Therapy can be a great place to talk about relationships, including romantic relationships, family relationships, and friendships.
Trauma
Trauma, such as physical or emotional abuse, can have a significant impact on a person's life. Therapy can be a helpful space to process and work through these experiences.
Stress and coping
People often come to therapy to talk about stressors in their life, such as work, school, or financial problems, and to learn coping mechanisms.
Behavioral issues
Therapy can also be used to address specific behavioral issues, such as addiction or eating disorders.
Personal goals
therapy can also be used to set and work towards specific personal goals, such as improving self-esteem, building better relationships, or overcoming procrastination.
It's important to note that the therapy is guided by you, the client, therapist are not there to impose or tell you what to do, but to help you explore what is going on with you and to assist you on reaching your goals. It is also common that therapist will ask you questions to better understand your experience and thoughts, this will help to provide a deeper understanding of the problem and to develop a plan to address it.
In addition, therapy may also be used to work on the development of new skills, such as communication, problem-solving, or stress management. The therapist will work with you to identify specific areas for improvement and provide guidance and support to help you make progress.
Is Therapy Scary?
For some people, the idea of therapy can be daunting or even frightening. However, it's important to remember that therapy is a safe and confidential space where you can talk openly and honestly about your feelings, thoughts, and experiences. Many people find that therapy provides a sense of relief and helps them to feel more in control of their lives.
It's common to feel anxious about the first session, but the therapist is trained to create a safe and comfortable space for clients to explore their thoughts and emotions. You don't have to have all the answers or even have a clear idea of what you want to talk about, the therapist will guide you through the process, help you identify areas of concern, and work with you to set goals for therapy.
It's also important to remember that therapy is a collaborative process, and you will work with your therapist to develop a treatment plan that is tailored to your unique needs and goals. This can include things like learning coping strategies for managing stress, developing better communication skills, or working through past traumas.
If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can also ask the therapist about their approach and how they work with their clients, or even look for therapy styles that fit your preferences.
Overall, therapy can be challenging at times, but it should ultimately be a positive and empowering experience that helps you to lead a happier, healthier life.
How Do I Choose a Therapist To Work With?
Choosing a counselor can be a challenging task, but it's important to take the time to find the right fit for you. Here are a few things to consider when selecting a counselor:
Licensing and qualifications
It's important to make sure that the counselor you choose is properly licensed and qualified to provide therapy. They should have a master's or doctoral degree in a mental health field, such as psychology, counseling, or social work, and be licensed by the state in which they practice.
Specialization
Some counselors specialize in certain areas, such as anxiety, depression, or trauma. If you have a specific issue you would like to work on, it might be beneficial to find a counselor who has experience and knowledge in that area.
Approach
There are many different therapeutic approaches, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), or humanistic therapy. It's important to find a counselor who practices an approach that aligns with your personal beliefs and goals.
Location and availability
Think about the location of the therapist and their availability, it's easier to schedule appointment and make the most of the therapy if the therapist is close by and schedule match with your availability.
Cost
It's important to also think about the cost, Some insurance plans may cover therapy, but some may have limits or specific requirements.
Personal rapport
It's important that you feel comfortable with the counselor, and that you can trust them with your feelings and thoughts. In addition to counselors, online psychiatrists are available for those who may require medication management along with therapy, offering a convenient option for accessing mental health care remotely.
You can start by asking for recommendations from friends, family, or a healthcare provider, or looking for therapy providers online. Many therapists also have websites that provide information about their qualifications, approach, and specialties, You can also use those websites to schedule an initial phone call or video call, that way you can get to know them better and ask any questions you might have before deciding whether or not to schedule an in-person appointment.
How To Get Started With Counseling at Sunshine City Counseling
Starting therapy can be a big step, but it doesn't have to be difficult. Here are a few steps to help you get started:
Research therapists
Sunshine City Counseling has a ton of counselors and life coaches in St. Petersburg, FL. If you have a friend who can provide a recommendation, awesome. Otherwise, you can take our quiz to figure out which therapist is the right one for you. PSA: Chelsy Snell and Cara Reiff both accept United Healthcare, Aetna, Optum and Oscar insurances.
Contact the therapist
Most therapists will have an email or phone number on their website where you can contact them to schedule an appointment or ask any questions you may have. You can holler at any of our therapists by scheduling a free first session or simply emailing them with their name@sunshinecitycounseling.com
Schedule an appointment
Once you've found a therapist you feel comfortable with, you can schedule a free first session. The therapist will provide you with a more detailed explanation of their approach, and you can decide whether you want to continue working with them.
Prepare for your first session
Before your first session, it may be helpful to think about what you would like to discuss in therapy. You don't have to have all the answers, but having a general idea of what you want to work on can help to make the most out of the first session.
Be open-minded
It's important to keep an open mind and be willing to try different types of therapy or find a new therapist if the first one doesn't seem to be working for you. Remember, the goal of therapy is to provide a safe and supportive space for you to work through your thoughts and feelings, so don't hesitate to speak up if something is not working for you and discuss it with your therapist. It’s kind of like dating, it can take a few times going out before you find someone you want to be in a committed relationship with.
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It's worth noting that therapy can be done either in person or via online therapy. Since the pandemic, many therapists are offering online counseling which allows you to have your session via video conferencing or telephone call. This can be a convenient option if you have mobility issues, scheduling conflicts, traffic sucks or if the therapist is not located near you.
It's important to remember that therapy is a journey and it may take time to find the right fit and make progress, but with the right therapist and with your effort, you can work through your challenges and achieve the goals you set for yourself.


We provide online counseling and in-person therapy in the states of Florida and Maine.